Real Talk 123

Somewhere between facetious alley and honesty pavilion, but right off optimism street.

April 1, 2014
by Alesia

I’m a Black Catholic

Yes, I’m a Christian.
Yes, I like the pope.
Yes, I read The Bible.
Yes, I’ve been on a retreat.
Yes, I was baptized as a baby.
Yes, I listen to gospel music.
Yes, I’ve been to a baptist church.
Yes, I’m okay with people being gay.
Yes, I’m okay with birth control and abortion.

No, I was never told by any Catholic leaders that the above things were wrong to answer, “yes” to.

Guess what, I was raised Catholic- and I’m happy I was. Even now, there is no other religious ideology I identify with more than Catholicism. Look, I’m not saying that Catholicism is -the way the truth and the light for you. But, for me it is.

I grew up Catholic. My mother went to Catholic school up until college, and my grandmother attended Catholic school for high school. I attended Catholic school, from middle through high school. I attended church every Sunday and there was no question that on vacation, we were sure to find a Catholic church in the area. Before I delve in I wanted to make sure that you had some context with my upbringing.

The bulk of my family isn’t Catholic. My “family church” is actually a Baptist church. So every family reunion ended with us celebrating reunion at a Baptist church service. I’ve been to Jewish, Lutheran, Assemblies of God, Episcopal, and Protestant services. I had the privilege of studying different religions in my Catholic school, and the education was eye-opening. I’ve never felt pressured to practice  a certain faith by the Catholic leaders in my life.

So here is what prompted me to write this blog.

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February 14, 2014
by Alesia

Love Yourself for Valentine’s Day #MyVDay

I’ve spent New Year’s Eve “alone” the past… Well, a while. Similarly, Valentine’s Day has been a little, well lonely as well. For long time readers, you are well aware that my last boyfriend dumped me on Valentine’s Day. So V-Day and I got beef… The beef was intensified, yesterday when I found out that yet again my V-Day would be solo.

If you are able to spend this day with your someone special. Good for you, and stop reading this post! Just kidding. This year I’m giving myself some advice, and maybe it’ll work for you too.

1. Treat ‘Yoself’

Buy your self some flowers or some chocolates. Last, year I had a full Valentine’s gift for myself. No, I didn’t send myself flowers and pretend it came from someone else I bought it for myself, and owned it. It’s easy and I like chocolate…

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January 1, 2014
by Alesia

New Year’s New Tears

From the inception of this site I’ve set a goal to spend New Year’s with “someone special” A BOYFRIEND! So, about that goal… Yeah, I haven’t been successful in that endevor.


Looking back at this year, I did accomplish a lot. I fell in love. I got my heart broken. I finally started my career. I moved. I bought some expensive things (those who know me know that that is a BIG deal). I learned a lot about myself personally and professionally. I wouldn’t take this year back for anything, it has been amazing. Looking at 2014, love has got to be on the horizon and excelling in my new position is paramount. 
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December 30, 2013
by Alesia
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The time has come…

America, we need to stand up and unite. We are at war. There is a global poverty crisis. Racial tension in America is rising and the solution is nowhere in sight. Immigration reform still hasn’t happened and millions of families are being torn apart EVERYDAY! But, instead of us coming together to solve these tough issues, we are sitting at home watching “Keeping Up With the Kardashians” every Sunday night…
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December 15, 2013
by Alesia

What are you doing New Years?

I started planning New Years months ago

Last year was amazing.

We had a blast.

So many great memories

But this year is different.

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