Real Talk 123

Somewhere between facetious alley and honesty pavilion, but right off optimism street.

February 27, 2012
by Alesia
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Is It Ok To Want Marriage?

The NY Times

Research group, Child Trends reports that, “more than half of births to American women under 30 occur outside marriage.” For college graduates this is not the case. 92% of college graduate women were married when they gave birth.  Women with college degrees are resisting this trend, making marriage something for the “privileged and educated.” But it my experience it is just the opposite.  Those who are educated and career-minded seem to scoff at the idea of pining after the “white picket fence” ideal. 

I was born into a single parent household, 73% of all Black children are. My upbringing was great, but it didn’t make me feel that marriage was unimportant. If anything I wanted marriage even more.  Just because my parents didn’t work out doesn’t mean that my relationship won’t.  I’m not walking around begging for a ring, but I’m not willing to take it off the table.

It isn’t exactly posh to want marriage.  Girl who want marriage, are considered desperate. In some peoples eyes if you want marriage you are automatically looking to be a SAHM who has no desire to work. I want a career and I want to be married. I don’t think there is anything wrong with wanting marriage.

Once upon a time, women needed to get married. If a girl wanted to get away from her parents rules, she’d have to marry.  Women couldn’t own property on their own, and women couldn’t work. Marriage was a right of passage. It was a means to gaining independence. Things are totally different now. Marriage isn’t a requirement, but it shouldn’t of been that way in the first place.

In my opinion marriage is a beautiful partnership, a team. Two people in love battling the challenges that life provides.  Marriage is a supportive union, husband and wife cheering each other on. It isn’t about procreation it’s about being on a team.

 

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February 22, 2012
by Alesia
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BGLO- The Dating Game

Last April I did a Greek draft for Historically Black Greek Letter Organizations. This post was widely popular so I decided to do a twist on it. It is the Dating Game! Some of the organizations in the Divine Nine are destined to be together; it is time for them to be united. Using the stereotypes that I used before, I will put my matchmaker hat on and make some divine connections… Let’s play!

AKA and Kappa Alpha Psi

I’m going to start out with the obvious pairing. The pretty girls of Alpha Kappa Alpha need an understanding man that can handle all of that pretty.  The pretty boys of Kappa Alpha Psi are Oh so Pretty! When an AKA is taking forever to primp for a night out, her man will be taking even longer! This couple will always be late and will always be fabulous.

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Delta Sigma Theta and Phi Beta Sigma

Red, White, and Blue! Girl next door, meet your boy next door. These level headed ladies will pair well with the business minded men of Blue and White.  Sigmas are good guys that can have fun too. This pair would be evenly yoked for sure. Both are business savvy and amiable. I can see this pair throwing amazing dinner parties with some great food. I hope I’m invited. Some may be confused as to why I didn’t put Zeta and Sigma together. Well, it would unnecessary Zeta and Sigma are already constitutionally bound together (it is enough). 

 

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Zeta Phi Beta and Alpha Phi Alpha

This even tempered smarty could handle the wit from the ladies of ZPhiB. Both are known for hitting the books and a union between the two will no doubt be fruitful. Zeta’s playful demeanor will loosen up the professional Alpha. They will engage in friendly debates and are sure to be the power couple on the block. From the board room to the living room, this pair is sure to go far.

 

SGRho and Que Psi Phi

Sometimes opposites attract… This union might surprise some, but these two would complement each other perfectly. Ques like the spotlight and an SGRho will let her man bask in it. A Que will pull out this girl’s wild side and she will tame this dog. Sometimes opposites attract, the lady and the tramp.

You may think, what happened to the Iotas? Well, they’ve got their sweethearts already laid out for them. Who am I to mess with that?

*For entertainment purposes only*

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February 20, 2012
by Alesia
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200th Post- Optimism is Alive

This past Saturday I, along with many, watched Whitney Houston’s homegoing. The was such an outpouring of love for the late singer.  As a child, I idolized Whitney. Her grace, her voice, her everything was so accessible and wholesome. Her career stands in stark contrast to the “singer” of today. I still can’t believe she is gone.  For those who think people are now clamoring around Whitney just because she is gone, I’d like to refer you to this post. I wrote it a year ago.

In the spirit of renewal and revival I want to remind my readers about this site’s mission statement.  This site is all about purging purging the negativity to leave only positivity.

As the world watched the ceremony, I couldn’t help but realize that the “liberal media” was broadcasting a church service. Fox News broadcast some of it, but MSNBC and CNN offered uninterrupted coverage. Well, I wouldn’t call what CNN did uninterrupted, but  that is another story.  The music was amazing, I could have done without Alicia Keys and R. Kelly, but I’m sure Whitney would have been proud. Instead of coalescing around the sorrow of a life lost, Whitney’s home church encouraged the world to celebrate.

As I embark on a new chapter in my life it is important for me to stay optimistic.  Many would have me shuffle along. Shuffle along, under the pretense that I won’t find a job I’ll enjoy. They’d have me accept my fate as a post graduate with little to no experience, thus making me an undesierble candidate for employment. I refuse to accept defeat.  Although I’m unemployed I’m not wallowing. I know I’m going to get a job.  I know I’ll enjoy it. And I know I’ll be more than qualified.

To all my post grads, don’t fret… Optimism isn’t overrated

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