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February 2, 2016
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My Eurovision 2016 Top Five: For Now

And then there were six…

It’s like I get a new song to add to my playlist every week! Eurovision 2016 is starting to take shape. We have 6 official entries, a slogan, logo and semi-final order. Everyone is sharing their top five picks. What are your favorites so far?

I’ve have my top 5. I am looking at the full package. I’m looking at potential stage performance, vocals, song quality, and factoring in how the juries will respond. At first when I ranked the acts I was listening to the blogs and social media too much. Which spawned this list:

1. Spain
2. Malta
3. Ireland
4. Albania
5. Belgium
6. Belarus

Eventually I had to tune everyone out and listen to the songs for myself. I am coming from a different perspective, but I have to be true to myself. Now the following is truly based off my taste. Again, I’m not saying that this is how Europe will vote, but the following is my personal top 5 list. Let me know what your thoughts are in the comments!

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What’s IN and what’s OUT for Eurovision 2016

January 26, 2016 by Real Talk | 0 comments

So it is time for me to detail my picks for things that should stay in Eurovision 2015. We are well into 2016 and it is time for us to leave a few things in the Eurovision graveyard. Check out my Eurovision vlog above.

I already detailed my 10 Things I don’t want to see at Eurovision 2016. This is a little different– these are trends I’m seeing crop up in the song contest and I’m taking a stand here and proclaiming now that these trends are OUT!


Singing in your native language
Ditching the “Pop Ballad”
Bonafide celebrities stepping into the spotlight


No choreography
Sounding like Adele
Message songs

January 26, 2016
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My love for the Eurovision Song Contest

I say a lot of things about Eurovision in my video blogs– some positive and some negative. Please don’t be distracted by the negative notes I bestow upon our beloved Eurovision Song Contest.

Music is such a personal thing. Music allows us to connect with people throughout the world people we have things in common with and people we don’t. It is a beautiful thing.
Although I’m only an American and it may seem like ESC has nothing to do with me that couldn’t be farther from the truth. The songs both meaningful and silly have impacted my life and that’s special.
I love the Eurovision Song Contest. The show, the artists, lyrics, melodies, fans and community have done more to lift me up in my moments of despair than most. For that I am forever indebted to all that make the Eurovision Song Contest real.

November 22, 2015
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Queer Dating in DC

Queer-Dating-in-DCSo many fish in the sea

“It’s too small.” That is what my friend said when I asked her about the dating scene in DC. I couldn’t disagree more. Okay, DC is a small city, but let’s be real– it could be WORSE. It could be so much worse. When I got out, I at least feel like I have a selection– and I’m PICKY!

What do you do?

Hetero, Homo, Queer, Trans, Pan… No matter who you ask, they will probably sum up dating in DC with those 4 words. WHAT. DO. YOU. DO…

It’s a simple question that can open up a whole new world. It can say so much about a person, and yet nothing at all…

But I have some breaking news for you…

Dating in DC is AWESOME! No where else in the continental United States can you have the conversations we have, the diversity, and the overall quality… Of course dating in the queer people of color “scene” is limiting. Queer dating as a whole in DC is a smaller pool, but I argue that the quality and quantity in the area makes it one of the best cities in the US the be Queer and dating. Even the data proves that singles in the city are pretty content.

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November 12, 2015
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Breaking up with someone you weren’t with

When you are dating, things can get a little complicated. Being “out” and dating women has not made things easier.

It was a relationship that lasted about as long as my gel nails lasted. She was older, thus more mature and experienced (so I thought). I was young, open-minded andUgh-Face-Queer-Dating not having the highest of expectations. Things were progressing quite well. I met 2 of her friends she met 2 of mine. We had 2 sleepovers, but she hadn’t seen my house. We were getting to know each other- Nothing serious, nothing heavy…

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